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Clients (or guests)
come to me for various reasons. Sometimes they want to consider their options
at a specific crossroad in their life. Or perhaps some experience has taken their
feet out from under them and they need to find a new way forward.
Others feel all
tangled up and want to simplify or refocus their lives. Some are battling with
despair or depression, trying to find meaning in their lives. It could really
be anything that brings them - nothing human is outside of philosophy! - but they
come because they need support or assistance to face the particular question of
their life.
Philosophical counselling
is not characterised by techniques or theories, but by a commitment to consider
the client or guest's life situation as unique and significant. We begin with
the guest teaching me about his or her situation. Simply being invited to explain
yourself to someone who is sincerely interested enables you to speak, and hearing
yourself being heard helps you to listen to yourself more seriously as well.
One begins to speak with deeper confidence and clarity, sharpening one's own understanding
and bringing hidden facets to light. This way of inquiring into things never really
stops, but gradually we become able to work as well at a more abstract level of
analysis: what does this person care about? What's real or phony to her? What
motivates him? What shapes her perspective?
My role is to encourage
the guest to find his or her own best expression of this - whether it is in terms
of philosophy, politics, psyche, spirit or whatever - to bring us to the heart
of whatever is causing their distress. The philosophical counselling relationship
combines skills of the mind (questioning and reasoning) and the experience of
dialogue (speaking and listening to each other with care and attention).
Someone once said
that the need for philosophy is "above all a need for inner stability
and for a standard by which to guide our personal life." In response
to my guest's "need for philosophy", philosophical counselling is
at once an ethical, political, and pedagogical practice. Inasmuch
as it satisfies that need, it is also a therapeutic practice.
In
person or by email.
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